We Can


"Every day let us check our progress and see that we grow a little better. Every day should elevate us a little, broaden our attitudes, reduce our selfishness and make us better masters over our own body, senses, and mind. This is the kind of Yoga that will really help us."
--Vidya Vonne, from the Introduction in The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali
by Sri Swami Satchidananda

Can you remember what it was like to be a child? Do you remember thinking that one day you will grow up and be an adult? That somehow all the pains and challenges of being a young person will just nicely pack themselves up and hit the road once you turn 18. That by being a grown up you will have it all figured out, and all learning will cease and you will just be. Maybe it's just me, but I always thought you became better as you got older, kind of like wine. The older I get, the more I realize this is not always necessarily true with everyone. I have a neighbor who recently became outraged because a family of African Americans moved next door to me. It has been almost two weeks since they moved in, and this family has been nothing but ideal apartment neighbors: friendly and quiet. But this unfortunate soul can not seem to find peace with their existence so close to hers. She has told me numerous times the complaints she has reported to the office, from how she doesn't like the way they throw their garbage away in the dumpster (what??) to how offended she is that they have an Obama poster in their window --which I'd like to add, in my opinion, is another trait of a good neighbor!!! This scenario upsets me. Once my neighbor finished on her rampage I exclaimed: why don't you assume this family is like everyone else and simply wants a safe and comfortable place to live. Why don't you just let them be, until they prove else wise. And, my neighbor explained to me, in these exact words--that she is a racist.

I was shocked. Literally. Shocked is the word. Maybe I'm naive. But I had no idea that there are actually people that consider themselves and proclaim themselves as racists. Well you see those people on talk shows, but I always thought they were the extreme. I had no idea everyday folks actually describe themselves as racists. It saddens me, and sickens me terribly.

This neighbor lady is in her mid fifties. By then you would think she had some things figured out. By the time I'm fifty years old, I hope who I am today will have evolved into something so much more reminiscent of light.

These last couple days at school has presented numerous opportunities for me to practice being more reminiscent of light...or in other words: practice Yoga. I realize as I get my room together for a new year, that this year I would like to be a better teacher then I was last year. I would like to understand my students better, and work on ways for them to better understand me. I would like to bring peace and positive energy to the faculty and staff. I want to be more present, and less wrapped up in how things should be, or who fault it is, or where I hope to be in a few years. I want every moment to exist for what it is and for me to be present right there.

It all begins with practice. We can be enlightened. We can be like light. We can be like Buddha. We can. We really can. Because what all the enlightened beings ever do or did, including Buddha, is practice. Every enlightened being started out as normal and as everyday as us, and even in an enlightened state still stay as normal and everyday as us. Enlightened Beings still have to feed themselves, do the laundry, and buy toilet paper. The difference is that they realize that every moment is a gift to practice being a better person, and they just do it...they practice it.

When you start looking at your life, your job, your interaction with your neighbors, friends, family, strangers, your everyday existence as an opportunity to practice being a better you...it changes the entire atmosphere. Makes things actually more exciting! I'm not at work to just make money to pay bills and save for my next vacation---No, I'm there to become a better person, to find that inner peace. This jerk who just cut me off in traffic---he is here to help me become a better person--he is providing me with an opportunity to practice being a better person. My boss just told me I need to stay late and finish this project---I don't want to, but this is another opportunity to practice being a better person...one more step to achieving that inner bliss the masters write about.

Nobody finds inner peace by escaping life...they achieve it by completely living life. Somehow I had this revelation as I struggled trying to hang a huge roll of paper on my bulletin board by myself. (To my teacher friends out there, I'm sure you understand.)
Peace & Love.

6 comments:

jafabrit said...

some people just don't have the level of introspection and ability to see that the hate in their life is within them. It is kind of shocking isn't it to meet someone older and see such hate or ignorance or boiling resentment and nastiness.

Your neighbour sounds like a sad pittiable creature. I just hope the family she dislikes so much doesn't have to deal with it or be hurt by her.

Jennifer Snellings said...

Wow, I just had to comment on your post! How sad for your neighbor to live with such hatred in her heart. What an amazing opportunity this person is missing in having a new friendship/ relationship with a family that is in some ways different from her, but I bet in others very similar. They are a family, living each day to take care of their loved ones, build relationships, work, eat dinner, do laundry, etc. just like the rest of us. Wow, this just hurts my heart!

You know, just last weekend my Pastor started a new series called "isms and schisms" and spoke on racism. It was so cool to think that a church is willing to take such an issue on! I got chills and even got emotional from what he said and the stories shared. I could only think if the world could take this attitude of equality and run with it what an amazing world we'd have! I know...lofty dreams! If you'd like to view the talk just go to www.chaseoaks.org and click on "current sermon series" on the top right side. At least we are starting somewhere, right! Hopefully your neighbor will see your example of unconditional love and be inspired!

Sorry for rambling on! I'm new to visiting your blog and I enjoy it so much! I'm a stay at home mom now, but taught art in the public schools for several years before having my daughter. It is so encouraging to see art teachers out there like you! It is such an important job and very rarely appreciated! :) Thanks for all of your hard work and I hope the new school year is off to a great start for you!

Annette said...

Connie,
I know what you mean, all the stuff that goes on in the workplace, even schools. It happens everywhere and you can't escape it. I guess, if we did, there would be no growth, like you have claimed. I am going to remember your kind words of encouagement to us this year in my school as these same things happen to me.
And about your neighbor . . . that is really sad. But at least you know where you stand. I suppose you could tell her back honestly that you are not a racist and that you accept the new neighbors and let her see how your life is at peace. Perhaps she will see that light from your life, perhaps not, but that is all you can really do.
Anni

Erica Herbert said...

thanks sweetcheeks~ i needed that little insight...inhale....exhale...
LOVE.
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carlikup said...

You Know Connie ...

You post blogs, that often get me thinking for days at a time ... seriously! This just happens to be one of them.

Life is a school, and I totally believe that we should get better as we get older; every experience good or bad, should make us a better person ~ isn't that the purpose of our soul coming back, to learn & perfect it?

I can't stand hatred/separation/racism ... It just paralyzes me when the subject is brought up :(

I feel so sorry for that African-American family.

nollyposh said...

~bEaUtIfUl~ blog... Every single word was ~Beautiful~ (Even the poor racist lady... How very sad is she? Lucky she lives next door to YOU!) ThankYOU Connie X:-D x

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